Weighing the benefits and costs of extracurriculars

What does your child do outside of the classroom? Are their schedules busy – perhaps too busy – with activities? Most kids participate in some sort of extracurriculars. They may play a sport or two, take part in scouting or student government, or have an after-school job. More than ever, teens feel the pressure to achieve in multiple arenas.

Studies and statistics have consistently shown that there are many benefits to students who take part in extracurricular activities. Overall, they tend to have higher grades, better self-esteem, even better mental health – especially when activities are replacing screen time. They enjoy more opportunities to develop social and leadership skills, broaden their horizons, and make new friends. And as school counselors will at times will note, those activities can make students more appealing on college applications. Sounds great, right? But, like many things in life, more is not always better.

The High-pressure World of High School Sports

Many of today’s youth are on their first sports team before they reach kindergarten. By the time they are teens, playing sports is an integral part of their lives. Many strive to reach elite sport status, playing on multiple teams with out-of-town games and multiple missed days of school. Some love it, but for others, the pressure and expectations take a toll. It’s important to foster an environment of honesty, so your child feels comfortable coming to you if they’re feeling burnt out, physically or mentally. You may need to step in to ensure your child remains healthy and happy.

The Added Challenge of College Prep

As graduation approaches, in addition to the daily stressors of high school academics and extracurricular activities, many students are expected to prepare for and take their ACT or SAT exams. They’ll also begin the process of looking, visiting, and applying for colleges or trade schools. This all takes time from a schedule that may already be at capacity.

As parents, you can help your child set priorities and step back from certain activities when necessary. Encourage time management and check in with them often. Communication between students, teachers, counselors, and parents/guardians is vital to keep all teens on the right track toward success after high school, even those not attending college.

How much is too much?

It’s estimated that the average student spends five hours per week participating in extracurriculars, but 3-6% of kids are spending 20 hours or more each week. For some, five hours may be too much, and for others, 20 hours may not a problem. It all depends on the child.

Watch out for signs of strain when they’re involved in sports and other extracurriculars.

• Does it seem like they want to participate – or simply feel compelled to be involved?
• Are they staying up late to finish assignments or struggling with their schoolwork?
• Are they more irritable than usual or having problems with friends?
• Have they shown less interest or more anxiety about certain pastimes?
• Have they expressed an interest in more downtime?

While sports, school groups, and other activities may strengthen students’ self-confidence and social skills, these could be signs that they’re doing too much. Remind them (and yourself) that these are all optional activities. Ask if they’d like to take a break or give something up, especially if they’re involved in multiple activities. And if it ever appears your child’s stress and/or anxiety is at a concerning level, or they show signs of depression or self-harm, contact your child’s pediatrician for a behavior health referral.

Watch, Listen, and Love

As parents we need to examine and sometimes adjust our expectations for our children. Encourage, listen, and engage with your student about how they’re feeling. This is a key step toward maintaining a good balance between school, activities, and downtime. And above all, let them know you are their number one fan and you’re proud of them, just the way they are!